Definitely hits home…
When you lose someone you loved more than yourself, the kind of grief that follows is not something you “get over.” It becomes part of who you are. That pain—raw, aching, and constant—never really goes away. You just learn to live with it.
And because of that, opening your heart again becomes terrifying. Not because you don’t want to love—but because your heart remembers what it felt like to lose, and it knows it may not survive that kind of hurt again.
So when someone who has been through a tragic loss pulls away or seems distant, it’s not always because they don’t care. More often, it’s because they’re trying to shield themselves from the possibility of feeling that unbearable pain again. They’re surviving the only way they know how: by guarding what’s left.
Sometimes, what they need most isn’t pressure, or questions, or even answers. Sometimes, they just need time, patience, understanding… and lots and lots of prayers.
Be gentle with those who grieve. And if you’re one of them—you are not alone. 🕊️💔
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